Episode 199
Get ready to embark on a journey with Bridget Hom, the inspiring entrepreneurial powerhouse who traded her corporate career for the thrill of building her own business. Bridget, a motivational speaker and mindset coach, will be your guide as she shares her story of shifting gears, the importance of showing up as your true self, and the ways she inspires those around her to do the same.
Bridget didn’t just jump into the entrepreneurial pool, she took a daring leap. Hear her recount the bold steps she took to take on an entirely new career path, the self-talk she had to navigate, and how she learned to dance with fear instead of running from it. Bridget shares the profound importance of keeping a check on your ‘serenity’, ‘sanity’ and ‘bank account’ while embracing entrepreneurship.
Her story is a testament to her determination and tenacity, but it doesn’t stop there. Bridget also shares some incredible coaching tips for up-and-coming entrepreneurs. From her “Four Selves” strategy, designed to honor your emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and physical aspects, to her “Stuck on Ready” mindset programming, her insights are truly valuable. As she talks about managing life post-divorce and maintaining her inner voice amidst challenges, Bridget encourages us all to stay problem-aware and solution-seeking. This episode is jam-packed with motivation and a roadmap to success in entrepreneurship, so make sure you don’t miss it!
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00;00;24;03 – 00;00;49;00
Unknown
Welcome, everyone to the Firing the Man podcast. On today’s episode, we have the pleasure to interview Bridget. Bridget is an incredible mindset coach and motivational speaker who has taken the world by storm. Bridget’s journey as an entrepreneur began during a time when countless individuals were seeking reinvention in personal and professional evolution in their lives and businesses. With her deep understanding of the power of mindset.
00;00;49;02 – 00;01;11;07
Unknown
She has become a leading figure in the industry, inspiring and influencing thousands of entrepreneurs and leaders nationwide through her Find Your Freedom Programs. Bridget is also an acclaimed author. Her book, Stuck on Ready skyrocketed to become a best seller on Amazon within its first month. Very excited to have you on the show. Welcome. Hey, thanks, guys. David ten.
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Unknown
Glad we got that right. I’m glad to be here with you. Absolutely. We’re excited as well. So to start things off, can you please share with our listeners a little bit about your background and your path to becoming a motivational speaker and author? Oh, my gosh. Absolutely. Well, you know, you just keep empowering that person in front of you and then all of a sudden other people tell another person and then all of a sudden they’re like, Hey, can you come speak for this group?
00;01;32;27 – 00;01;51;12
Unknown
Can you come speak for my this training? You know? And so it really just always starts with I say, number one, make your goal to show up well and authentically and make your number two goal to empower the person in front of you no matter what. And so I would say, you know, authoring a book came out of coaching hundreds of individuals through my Find Your Freedom program.
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Unknown
Many entrepreneurs who broke out of the employee mindset and adopted the entrepreneur mindset lifestyle or people who just have that desire to do business and business and life on their terms. Right. It’s a it’s definitely obsessive thing that we have as entrepreneurs, I would say. So that’s how that’s what I would say to that question is just about empowerment, really.
00;02;10;27 – 00;02;35;01
Unknown
Thanks very much for coming on the show and thanks for your for your intro. So my first question to you, I think it’s probably a high level question that we ask a lot of our guest. What made you pursue entrepreneurship versus going into the corporate world? That’s a great question. You know, and actually someone else asked me that recently, I think a networking call, and I was looking back at the jobs that I have held and it actually started with let’s go back to college.
00;02;35;01 – 00;02;50;25
Unknown
So I realized that I wanted this job in ministry and they would give me a full ride to Notre Dame for my master’s in Catholic theology. So what did I do? I took action and called them, sent in my resume, which only had Starbucks and a restaurant on it. And they called me in to interview me and they said, You’re only a sophomore.
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00;02;50;26 – 00;03;06;12
Unknown
How we can’t hire you. And I said, I want to work for you and I want a full rights Notre Dame, and I could do anything you need me to do. And so they actually that’s how I got my first job. And it was all they said, You make your hours. It was pretty much like entrepreneurship. You make your hours, you reimburse you for these things.
00;03;06;12 – 00;03;23;00
Unknown
You create your own programs like this is awesome. And then I went to another job where I was a legal news reporter. You’re like, How do those coincide? Well, you’re stuck, are ready to make moves, and when you need employment, you make it happen, right? And so I started with that job. But I said, by the way, can I have two weeks off during Christmas?
00;03;23;00 – 00;03;42;01
Unknown
I know I’m just starting. And so I was always trying to do business, even as an employee on my terms. I noticed. And so if you’re if you’re an employee looking right now where you’re like, I’m always trying to do business and life on my terms and I’m getting yeses from my employers. Chances are you got a little bit of entrepreneurship in your blood.
00;03;42;01 – 00;03;58;07
Unknown
And so fast forward ten years. I had my three boys. It’s a wild, crazy ride. I live in a frat house. It feels like most days. And so I was I was a stay at home mom, essentially just networking for mom stuff. And I lived a pretty busy life as no a booty means. Yeah, we found out from our last guest.
00;03;58;08 – 00;04;19;17
Unknown
Yeah. So that that’s pretty much what my life looked like. And then, you know, the 2020 evolution hit of the mask, people freaking out, losing jobs, trying to figure out what to do next. And I was in that wave and I was actually on my way to getting divorced. And then I moved out of my big, beautiful home into an apartment with my three young boys virtual school became a thing which was pretty intense for most people.
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Unknown
If you talk to anyone, I think that created the mental illness evolution as well. I mean, if you were a parent with your kids stuck at home, it was pretty intense. And I don’t say that lightly. A little bit of humor involved because, you know, my kids were putting on ten socks at a time and trying to walk around the house, you know, and, you know, whatever.
00;04;34;10 – 00;04;51;25
Unknown
So in that time frame, I got a random Zoom business networking link while I’m sitting at home trying to figure out how to bring in income because my job in the seniors industry disappeared and I showed up to this call at 8 a.m. on a Thursday morning. And this gentleman, Brian, goes, Bridget, home, give your 30 seconds. And I’m like, Dang.
00;04;51;25 – 00;05;09;08
Unknown
And he mispronounce my last name. What am I supposed to say? And Bridge to Freedom coaching was just a side hustle at the time. I had a total of three clients and honestly, all I said was Bridget Hum, you’re a Bridge to Freedom coaching. Are you ready to level up? And that’s when the entrepreneurship journey began and all my programs were launched.
00;05;09;09 – 00;05;33;25
Unknown
Motivational speaking group sales trainings. The book stuck out ready and well, here we are today, three years later. Awesome. So, so take us through from that point in time, moving forward, what what was kind of the first entrepreneurial initiative that you tackled? Well, showing up to the Zoom call was definitely a big one. Showing up before you feel ready was the big thing I did, you know, because if you wait until you are ready to be an entrepreneur, you’ll never become one.
00;05;33;25 – 00;05;53;18
Unknown
So I had to fire fear, fire the negative. What if what if this doesn’t work right and just jump into entrepreneurship with two feet? And so the next yes, I had to say yes to was to gentleman actually asked me to do a live show with them every week. And I’m like, Absolutely. Did I have any idea what we were going to do or say or what I was going to talk about?
00;05;53;18 – 00;06;13;04
Unknown
Absolutely not. But I said yes before I felt ready. And then can you do a ten minute workshop for our networking group? Absolutely. I have no idea what I’m going to say to these people. And so saying yes to that next opportunity in front of me before I felt ready, that’s really the basis of entrepreneurship taking imperfect action.
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Unknown
I’d like to dive into this a little bit more and talk about maybe what self-talk is going on when this happens, when you’re not feeling ready and in an opportunities presented to you. And I can think of probably a dozen people that I’ve talked to in the last year that have said I want to run my own business, but and then there’s a what if what if I get sued?
00;06;32;21 – 00;06;56;26
Unknown
What if I don’t have insurance? What if? And so what were some ways that you dealt with that in what have been some ways that you have helped your clients deal with that? You know, I always say we’re typically in a relationship with our thoughts about people versus people themselves. And so you really need to make sure that you’re hiring and firing the right mental team because you want to make deposits in your three accounts, your serenity account, your sanity account, and your real bank account.
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Unknown
So what does that entail? Well, for me, it was, first of all, firing my feelings. Feelings aren’t my friends because fear is always counteracted by action. And so I learned to well, I started a brain dump, which was from my coaching business and my training. So that’s what I give in my program. So I would sit and write for 2 minutes and just write out whatever is in my headspace so that it wouldn’t come out in my actions.
00;07;18;20 – 00;07;36;26
Unknown
And so I give the paper that those feelings. Number two, I would really hone in on getting inside the person’s head in front of me. Now that sounds a little weird. It’s not like an alien experience. It’s just trying to honor that person and create a space of radical self-acceptance for that person in front of me, no matter what.
00;07;36;26 – 00;07;57;05
Unknown
So involved booking my calendar and then listening as much as possible and asking questions to get people to plug in so that I can just be in that energy. It’s like, okay, my number, I just want to empower this person with value. I want to add solutions to their life or their business right now. And so that’s where I found my comfort zone when I was able to help people.
00;07;57;05 – 00;08;21;17
Unknown
It was in the doing that helped me to start to get into the right being very nice, very nice. So I one more follow up question then I’ll kick it over to Ken. So as we were prepping for this interview, this is probably the one question I was most excited to ask you have a very interesting perspective in that you work with a lot of entrepreneurs and in oftentimes Ken XYZ entrepreneurs, sometimes our problems feel unique to us.
00;08;21;18 – 00;08;38;25
Unknown
However, I would think if you worked with a couple hundred entrepreneurs, there would be a couple of themes that tend to bubble up. And so what are those that that tend to bubble up? And what would be some ways that you coach them through that? How much time do we have to talk about 90 day Find your Freedom program that you typically takes like 12 hours.
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Unknown
Let me just try to condense this. Okay. So like you said, there are definitely some consistencies across the board for anyone who falls under the entrepreneurship umbrella. Number one, it’s becoming intentional because there’s a never ending to do list in entrepreneurship that doesn’t end until while you’re dead or you have no job. So you have to establish a sense of intentionality doing a two minute brand up in the morning, setting a two minute timer and just writing out your headspace helps you to do that.
00;09;04;17 – 00;09;26;28
Unknown
So that’s that’s number one. Number two, two, you have to develop a strategy to monetize your influence. And I always say this is the master list that I give everyone you focus on. Number one, your mindset programing. Number two, clients. Number three, prospects. Number four, prospecting. Number five, networking. And number six content creation. And that’s on social media, email, blast, etc..
00;09;26;28 – 00;09;46;12
Unknown
So when you want to focus on that list and you want to set hours on your timeframe, what honors you, what honors your roles and your goals? You see now as an entrepreneur, you’re responsible for this, so you want to set up a list of priorities based on your roles, not your goals. So we’ve already got the goals covered with the monetizing your influence list.
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00;09;46;13 – 00;10;09;06
Unknown
Now you need to look at your roles and say, okay, what roles do I get to be play every day? I have a mom role, I have a wife role, I have a Bridget role, I have a business owner role and I have a coach role. I want to do one action step that honors each one of those each day, because I find in entrepreneurship, when you get to that next level of success, business burnout happens because of not honoring those roles as just as important as your goals.
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Unknown
So that’s what I would say in a nutshell. If I were to like, try to condense everything as an entrepreneur, you want to focus on those things and then taking imperfect action. Yeah, I really like that. And balance, you know, if we could sum all of it up, I think just like keeping yourself in balance with all of that, all of the moving pieces of your life and kind of making sure all of you’re speaking to all of them.
00;10;30;27 – 00;10;49;13
Unknown
I really like that. And it’s it’s absolutely crucial. But let’s do like a mock client call. And so you probably get this a lot. Like maybe maybe it’s, you know, a client or someone you work with, they’re maybe like, unsure of of if they’re going to be able to succeed. They’re always like questioning themselves. It’s I think it’s pretty common.
00;10;49;13 – 00;11;06;18
Unknown
And so what do you tell those clients or, you know, the people that you work with when they say, like they don’t have confidence in themselves? I don’t know if this is if I can attain this for myself. And what is it going to take? Like, how do you help them along it like? So if we have listeners today on the show, they’re like, I don’t know if I’m going to be able to do this or not.
00;11;06;18 – 00;11;24;10
Unknown
Like, what do you tell someone like that? So to help them overcome that, that locked in their mind, if you will, typically ask them this question, if your life, your lifestyle, your business, what you’re doing right now and how you’re showing up looks the exact same 20 years from now, will you be happy? What do most people say?
00;11;24;12 – 00;11;40;21
Unknown
They’re coming to me and they’re on my calendar. It’s typically I’m not happy. Okay. It’s their problem, aware and solution seeking already. However, if it’s someone who’s an employee and just trying to figure out if they’re ready to take the leap right. I typically ask them, Can you see doing what you’re doing right now for the next 20 years?
00;11;40;25 – 00;12;00;27
Unknown
And then, okay, why not, Right? Because you have to get people to see the whole picture because most people are just living a month out in their lives. Right. They’re they’re not like the financial planners. They’re not the long term people. They’re most people are living in like, okay, if I if I quit my job and jeopardize partnership, can I survive for the next month to three months without any income?
00;12;00;28 – 00;12;27;14
Unknown
Right. And then they’re like, how would I even start making income? So that’s where most people’s head spaces are at if their employees are thinking about jumping into entrepreneurship. Number two, most people don’t. They disregard finding someone to help them jump into entrepreneurship. So if you really have no experience and you have to break free from the employee mindset and employee lifestyle and dive into the lifestyle and mindset of entrepreneurship, you really want someone who’s gone before you and has done it successfully.
00;12;27;14 – 00;12;43;13
Unknown
Don’t be afraid to ask someone their numbers. Don’t be afraid to ask someone. How much time did they invest in this? I always invested between the hours of 8 a.m. and 2 p.m. to launch my business and I got to a six figure income the first year. And I’m not afraid to say what I did and what I didn’t do and what works and what doesn’t.
00;12;43;14 – 00;13;01;00
Unknown
Or I messed up and where I succeeded. So having that influence that’s real and raw is very helpful. When you venture into entrepreneurship, you’ve used the phrase employee mindset. And I think when you say that, I feel like I know what you’re talking about, but can you can you give us a good working definition of that? And I have a follow up question.
00;13;01;00 – 00;13;22;24
Unknown
After we kind of define employee mindset, employee mindset is waiting on somebody else to give you the next right action. Yes, I think that’s a great simple definition, and I like it. I agree with that. So what it seems like people are programed to to kind of have this and it can’t come from my parents. It can come from friends.
00;13;22;24 – 00;13;40;23
Unknown
Your peer group. But gosh, it’s it really seems to like sink its teeth in and really kind of overwhelm the way somebody thinks. There are certain people that I think probably are better off being an employee that like their life is better that way. But what when you’re talking about breaking it out of that employee mindset, what’s a good first step?
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Unknown
A good first step is to start to develop a vision of what your life looks like in a more and better setting. I always say I say that in my book more and better. Every nobody wants your product message or service, but everyone wants more and better and you have to be convinced that what you have to offer is the more and better for that.
00;13;56;20 – 00;14;15;12
Unknown
Right? So I would say start to nurture that vision of what you want and then entertain the ideas of entrepreneurship. You know, Tim Ferriss has a book called The Four Hour Workweek. You know, start doing your research. You know, entrepreneurs are really good at doing the organic market. Research started asking entrepreneurs what their life looks like, asking them what they’re doing.
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00;14;15;12 – 00;14;30;14
Unknown
So the best thing I could do enlarge that vision of what you want your life to look like and now start doing organic market research. Ask some entrepreneurs what they’re doing, how they’re working for them, how much money are they making? So you could start to see it as a real intangible for yourself. So I want to kind of get into balance.
00;14;30;14 – 00;14;54;09
Unknown
We talked about it a little bit earlier. Now, are successful business owners Balance is an issue, right? And so you talked about a little bit. We touched a little bit on it earlier. Based on your experience, what has been the most successful tool for achieving real balance now, Like you mentioned the steps earlier, now doing that over a consistent period of time or where do you see successful entrepreneurs reaching?
00;14;54;11 – 00;15;17;02
Unknown
I won’t say a perfect balance, but, you know, like a sustainable happy place. Well, I’ll tell you another one of my strategies that I do in my program. It’s called The Four Selves. And so you want to do something to honor your four selves every day. So emotional, spiritual, intellectual and physical self. So once you focus on your top five priorities based on your roles, you do your brand up to get intentional.
00;15;17;02 – 00;15;36;25
Unknown
I have a couple of other strategies along with the four selves, and you do all of these as actions that weave throughout your day. Then you stay balanced. That’s why the stuck on ready programing came to fruition because while I was creating and crafting my program, I was actually coaching people at the same time, coaching entrepreneurs and coaches at the same time.
00;15;36;26 – 00;15;56;04
Unknown
So I remember saying, You just got to hire and fire the right mental team. And I’m like, That’s a great idea. I’m going to make that into a strategy. And so that’s also one of the strategies in the stuck already mindset programing that all my entrepreneurs practice because it helps to get them laser focused on doing action authentically and monetizing their influence.
00;15;56;07 – 00;16;21;03
Unknown
So you have to honor, you have to find a way or method, honor yourself fully every single day so that you can be more empowering to the person in front of you, whether it be your spouse, a prospective client, a coworker, even I have actually coaching employees right now. And the one thing can I tell you one one that I coach mostly entrepreneurs, but this recently someone who was an employee said they wanted to work with me.
00;16;21;03 – 00;16;36;19
Unknown
So I’m not going to say no because based on what they said, they want to they wanted to focus on emotional intelligence. They wanted to be more empowering, inspiring. And the Speaker there was a couple of other things, but after working with me through my 90 day program, I have so much energy. I just need to do something good with it.
00;16;36;19 – 00;16;56;23
Unknown
Like, I just feel so good about my life, my self like. And I’m like, Yes, you have become an empowerment generator. You’re ready to create that culture of connectivity around you. Now we’re going a next phase, which is you have the energy and the mental awareness to go and empower the person in front of you. And that’s where we all I want everyone to get to.
00;16;56;23 – 00;17;21;25
Unknown
And because it’s important we all get to that place where we have that emotional intelligence where like my favorite quote examined by Aristotle and it’s the mark of an educated mind, is the ability to entertain a thought without accepting it. And so we get to that place where we can entertain thoughts, we can observe verses absorbing our surroundings, and we can just look at opinions, objections, observe the world around us and be in alignment.
00;17;21;28 – 00;17;39;12
Unknown
And we’re ready. We have lots of energy to share with the world and to serve others with solutions. Okay, I like that. One follow up question is what is an example? Practice that you you know, you give your clients on honoring themselves. Like you said, you had mentioned it, you know, honor yourself everyday. Like is there are there simple practices?
00;17;39;12 – 00;17;56;29
Unknown
What do you how do you do that? Gosh, All right. The one I have a ton, but one that I really would love for people who are listening to practice is self validation. Self validate your success. This is going to sound silly, guys, but do you like birthdays? Do you like your birthday? Yeah. Yeah. I get my favorite dinner.
00;17;57;00 – 00;18;16;12
Unknown
Well, that was your favorite dinner steak. Yes, Right. My son wants that for lunch every day. He’s like, good, right? So, like, day it. I’m cooking at like 6 a.m. every morning, but I see self validating success. And so at the end of the day, you need to put blocks on your day as an entrepreneur. You know, if you come from the employee setting, you know, works done at five, you, you know, you’ve sold yourself.
00;18;16;12 – 00;18;32;16
Unknown
I’m getting relief at this point in time. You’re probably checking out around 415 realistically, right? I did it. And so you need to set give yourself that setting where you’re going to start making deposits into your Serenity account, your sanity account, and your success account. Right? So you don’t have a boss saying, Hey, well done. You know, it’s pretty hardship.
00;18;32;16 – 00;18;48;16
Unknown
You don’t have coworkers celebrating you like, That was a really cool project. You did a great job. So you have to become your number one advocate for success. So I say get some birthday candles and at night, at the end of the day, light a birthday candle, parade, steak or meatloaf or whatever you’re going to cook. I don’t care.
00;18;48;18 – 00;19;08;18
Unknown
You cake, whatever it is that honors your health goals, right? I mean, put it put a candle, light it and celebrate your wins. That’s personal and professional. If you join the five man club for working out, celebrate that. If you got a new client that day, celebrate that if you prospected well and created 20 new connections on LinkedIn, celebrate that if your children are all alive today, celebrate that.
00;19;08;18 – 00;19;28;28
Unknown
You know, I mean, there’s so many things that you can celebrate. I mean, I celebrate running water. Okay. Like, yes, I but we’re not we’re not struggling with that. But I still will be grateful for the simple things and self validating. Your success is is part of being grateful for the things that you have people in your life as well as finding something to feel successful about.
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00;19;28;29 – 00;19;54;25
Unknown
I really like that. I really like that answer. Be getting out the birthday candles and then in the ribeye. Absolutely. Before we move on from this topic of balance, one thing I want to talk about and I think a lot of our our listeners, if you have children, probably relate to this when you’re going to a job and you’re an employee, generally if someone telling you when you can come in in life like it’s it’s not your own decision as an entrepreneur, you make your own schedule.
00;19;54;25 – 00;20;10;19
Unknown
And I think from an outsider looking in, it’s a lot different than when you’re actually in it. Like, I’ve seen this coffee cup that says I’m self-employed, so I get to pick which 60 hours I work every week. Oh, there you go. Yeah. CEO So for those just tuning in, Bridget just held up a coffee mug that says CEO of my life.
00;20;10;19 – 00;20;26;22
Unknown
And so once you get out of the employee mindset into being an entrepreneur and you have children, you’re torn with this. I personally I’ve got two sons and I would like to fish with them for 40 hours a week. And I would we would all be happy doing that, but there’d be no income coming in. So that’s a problem.
00;20;26;22 – 00;20;43;15
Unknown
It’s probably I just speaking personally, it’s probably one of the things that I am is most challenging to me about being an entrepreneur was when I had a job, I was like, I want to quit this job so I can spend more time with my kids. Now that I’m on the other side of this. Ultimately my decision. But you feel pressure from employees.
00;20;43;15 – 00;21;08;01
Unknown
And so any pro tips on on managing this balance as as a mom, you know, I could definitely relate to this. You know, one of my driving forces for continuing in entrepreneurship and and not looking back was I wanted to pick them up from the school bus. And no matter what, I was going to make this happen. And there were days where, oh, I’m like, oh, this person said they’d work with me if I’d work with them at 4:00 in the afternoon or 5:00 or 7:00.
00;21;08;01 – 00;21;24;24
Unknown
And I did that a couple of times. And I was always, you know, the truth is I was grateful to empower them, but it didn’t honor all my roles. I hired resentment on my mental team against myself. And so it was you know, it was hard. So you have to figure out where that alignment is. And also, as an entrepreneur, we don’t usually talk about this.
00;21;24;24 – 00;21;45;06
Unknown
Our businesses are exciting to us. We’ll love them. They’re very gratifying sometimes at home. It’s not, you know, you’ve got the never ending to do list at home as well. And, you know, children aren’t as grateful as clients or, you know, happy clients, Right? They’re just not your spouse is not as excited to see you as, say, someone who you just gave like golden nuggets to.
00;21;45;06 – 00;22;06;11
Unknown
Right. They’re just not. And so it’s really about balancing like, okay, this is exciting. This is an exciting world that we live in, in entrepreneurship. It’s like, Oh, there’s this other role too that I’m a part of. And so that transition is really important to establish for yourself. And so I actually I worked with a couple of people in the real estate world, you know, how that’s all consuming, right?
00;22;06;11 – 00;22;23;24
Unknown
My husband’s a loan originator. I got married in the Zoom business networking world. Actually, I met him in a meeting. Yeah. So? But sometimes business tends to call at the wrong time when you’re trying to honor your other roles. And how do we balance that? You know, how we balance that personally is we put our cell phones everything away at the dinner table.
00;22;23;24 – 00;22;41;26
Unknown
We have dinner time. And even if you don’t have kids, have that established dinner time with your spouse or your partner, because it’s important to be intentional about your roles just as much as you are with your goals. And when you’re intentional with both, you’ll find that you monetize your influence better and faster because you have that energy directed towards a specific activity.
00;22;41;26 – 00;23;03;11
Unknown
And just being intentional makes you more effective. You know, set that time, set the dinner time, also be intentional about certain activities and if you have to work later hours, be intentional about working a little less tomorrow or something along those lines. I mean, I know I give my kids iPads sometimes. Okay. I like my just has to do a couple of things on social media and then it’s I like always ask myself like, okay, how am I going to make up for this?
00;23;03;11 – 00;23;20;21
Unknown
Right? So it is I’m not going to say it’s not a battle some days because it is. But in the world of entrepreneurship, we’re not alone in that. So if you feel this way right now, you’re not alone. We just have to do the best we can possible. And show a button to click. I like that. I think there’s a lot of really good lessons in there for people with kids and without kids.
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00;23;20;21 – 00;23;42;09
Unknown
People with relationships, baby. I think that’s really, really solid advice. I’m really excited. We’re talking about this topic today because, you know, a lot of times, you know, we dig into business stuff, we look at numbers, we look at, you know, we look at all this stuff and but we sometimes overlook mindset or our schedule, our happiness, all of these things, which is very impactful on everything else.
00;23;42;09 – 00;24;02;12
Unknown
And so I’m excited this, this topic is, is here today. So my next question and this is of being an engineer. My, my partner always makes fun of me. She’s like, yeah, you have. She’s like, You’re so brilliant. You’re so smart on figuring out all these things, but your IQ is very low. Bridget Can you define what is emotional intelligence and business for the listeners?
00;24;02;12 – 00;24;27;04
Unknown
Well, honestly, I say the fastest way I could describe it is by that quote that I shared earlier. You know, the mark of an educated mind is the ability to entertain a thought without accepting it. It’s your ability to observe versus absorb, to stop living under the influence of circumstances, environments, situations, objections, opinions and obstacles, and just laser focus on your destination of your future successful self.
00;24;27;04 – 00;24;46;22
Unknown
So it’s your ability to keep your eye on the ball and stop living under the influence of all the things around you that absolutely don’t serve you in serving the person in front of you or being true to yourself. So it’d be like co-creating goals, having a vision and creating goals around that, and then just heading straight towards that and cutting out all the noise 100%.
00;24;46;28 – 00;25;07;26
Unknown
So, Ken, you’re not the only one who’s gotten that feedback from their partner. I also have some feedback I’ve received from my partner, also from people I’ve worked with is that I’m very direct, which sometimes is not a good mark of someone with high emotional intelligence. Ken, you’re laughing because you’re thinking of of ten scenarios where I have I have I always want people to know exactly where I stand.
00;25;07;26 – 00;25;31;04
Unknown
So I tell them exactly what I’m thinking. And that’s not always the move. And so for people that may recognize that they have a deficit in emotional intelligence, are there any books or any training tools that may be helpful in improving this? Yeah, there’s this book. I heard a hit bestseller on Amazon, and it actually will help with entrepreneurship as well because it’s about mastering the successful entrepreneur mindset.
00;25;31;04 – 00;25;49;28
Unknown
Breaking free from self-sabotage and accessing your limitless potential. I’ve heard there are some strategies in there that can help you practice emotional intelligence on the woman on the cover. Looks really a lot like me, and she may have the same last name. And I actually had people say they use this as their business Bible in dealing with people because business and people are synonymous.
00;25;49;28 – 00;26;19;21
Unknown
And so for many people who are venturing into entrepreneurship, where emotional intelligence is not their strong point, you’re going to want to focus on cultivating that relatability and that ability to be relationship centric because and you can look up relationship centric words, you can cultivate the ability to be an active listener. That’s also a part of emotional intelligence and developing high levels of self-awareness in the brain dump, as I mentioned, is very helpful for that, because after you do your brain, Deb, you would want to ask yourself, what do I notice about myself?
00;26;19;21 – 00;26;38;14
Unknown
Emotionally? Intelligent people are highly self aware so that then they could be others aware. But if you want to if you want to kind of look emotionally intelligent but maybe you’re still struggling with it, say things like What I love about what you just said or say things like Notice something about someone and then pointed out compliment someone, tell a story.
00;26;38;15 – 00;27;07;23
Unknown
People with high emotional intelligence are always focused on relatability, making people feel like you can connect well with them. I like that. In in your response, you alluded to your book, and I let’s get into that. So what would be the perfect candidate for somebody who wants to buy your book or what what type of audience is this geared towards, specifically people who have ventured into entrepreneurship or are employees looking to venture into entrepreneurship is also serves the coaches and consultants as well.
00;27;07;24 – 00;27;32;11
Unknown
So sometimes you don’t put coaches under that umbrella of entrepreneurship, but the truth is they are anyone who’s doing business on their terms. You have to learn how to sell brand, market yourself and get to the right mindset that is an entrepreneur. So this book has strategies for branding, sales, marketing, powerful prospecting, and then communication strategies to help you to show up more emotionally intelligent in your business and your life.
00;27;32;14 – 00;27;50;03
Unknown
I mentioned I referenced Dr. Susan here as well. Anyone like soccer? That’s awesome. I love Dr. Seuss. David, did you want to cover any other topics before we get into the fire around? Yes, I do. When we were trading emails prior to the show, you mentioned that you had a gift for our listeners. So can you tell the listeners what that is and how they can access it?
00;27;50;03 – 00;28;17;12
Unknown
Absolute. They they can actually get my book for free plus shipping at Stuck on Radio.com. So if you’re ready to to venture into entrepreneurship or you’d like to explore what that looks like, then this book is definitely going to be a coaching session for you. It be the cheapest, most cost effective coaching session you ever have and you have it forever and so it’s stuck on Radio.com and you can look into entrepreneurship for yourself and what limitless potential could look like for you.
00;28;17;14 – 00;28;34;04
Unknown
Awesome. And to all of our listeners that are driving, keep your eyes on the road. We will post that in the show notes. Get in the fire around. Yeah, absolutely. So Bridget and all of our guests, whenever we bring them out, we run them through the ringer with what’s called the fire round. Are you ready? All right. What is your favorite book?
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00;28;34;11 – 00;28;56;23
Unknown
Oh, gosh. Thinking Grow Rich by now. Love that aren’t all so many gold nuggets. It’s like never ending. It’s. It’s a wealth. What are your hobbies? Salsa, dancing, worship, leading, problem solving. Anything involving nature except camping? No. Camping? No. No. I’m not dry. Looking to camper like glamping. Sounds nice, but no where I can do outside for a minimum amount of time and then go back.
00;28;56;24 – 00;29;15;08
Unknown
I want to sleep inside. What is one thing that you do not miss about working for the man? I still get like a physical response from working for someone. One thing I don’t miss having someone tell me what to do and when I need to do it. And and limiting the amount of ways that I could help their business grow.
00;29;15;11 – 00;29;32;17
Unknown
I like that one. All right, last one. What do you think sets apart successful entrepreneurs from those who give up, fail or never get started? The number one thing we have in common with the Elon Musk said the world of Jeff Bezos and all of that. We all have the same amount of time. We have 168 hours in a week, 24 hours in the day.
00;29;32;17 – 00;29;52;26
Unknown
We all have that in common. What we don’t have in common is our ability to keep our eye on the ball, to partner with our future successful selves, and to literally just disregard any obstacles, objections or opinions and just laser focus. You know, when I when I got divorced, you know, I had I had some people say, why don’t you just go get a job or do it like you had three boys just go get a job.
00;29;52;26 – 00;30;14;01
Unknown
Go get a simple job. You know, my family’s like, we’ll help you, we’ll take care of you, will do all these things. What’s his coaching thing you’re doing? Like, Come on, Do you really think you’re going to succeed? And I just. I didn’t justify myself to that. I kept that inner voice strong and saying, no matter what, you are going to hit limitless potential because success is not just possible, it’s inevitable when you keep your eye on the ball.
00;30;14;01 – 00;30;33;14
Unknown
So what is that destination that you need to focus on? So that’s what I would say. Focus on that destination. Excellent answer. Bridget, I want to thank you for being a guest on the Firing Man podcast. If people are interested in working with you through your coaching program, what would be the best way to get in touch? Bridget Hum Dot me is my direct calendar link.
00;30;33;17 – 00;31;00;09
Unknown
Bridget Hamden They also do I do trainings, free trainings every Friday, so if they want access to that, find me on LinkedIn. Hey, training or free training, you can find me anywhere really in the world of social media. Just make sure you type in Bridget Hum, not Bridget Horne. Come home but Bridget home Dot me goes directly to my calendar for you to start becoming problem aware and solution seeking and figure out if entrepreneurship is for you or level up where you’re at in your entrepreneurship journey.
00;31;00;10 – 00;31;08;21
Unknown
Awesome. Well, very nice role. Thank you so much for your time and we look forward to staying in touch. Oh yeah, absolutely. Thanks for having me, guys. Thanks for.
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